A clear sign that you have not yet forgiven is when you want revenge. Perhaps you want them to FEEL what they've done for you and think that until they feel that pain they have caused you, they don't understand.
Maybe you feel that remorse will help you have a better relationship with that person.
Do you really think it would make you feel better? Seeing the remorse in them will only remind you of your own hurt everytime you see them or think about them and that is no basis to try build a better relationship. You will merely make the both of you unhappy. It may seem worth it - but I promise you, it's NOT. It just makes it worse.
You will only be able to move forward once you have forgiven. You also know that you truly have forgiven when you can think of that person without any negative emotions surfacing. You will actually feel light and free - it's worth it!!! I waited for more than 10 years to forgive and feel like I have wasted those years.
I urge you - forgive. Don't waste time like me. Read the May 2007 posting on Forgiving for You.
Please let me know what you think.
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2 comments:
hi
i don't really think that forgiving is always the best thing to do. i was been bullied and when it had stopped (i told a teacher at school) i became quite good friends with one of the boys who had been bullying me. We were quite close and i felt he had really changed towards me.
Then two days ago he started a rumour about me and was shouting things out in front of the whole class. it made me so upset that i had been close to him and he'd just thrown that rite back in a my face. Now the bullying has started again and it's all down to him.
It might work for some people to forgive but it has just made my life a whole lot worse.
Amy
I'm sorry to hear that Amy. I guess it all depends on the person. Today I am still being bullied tremendously - it's very hard to deal with daily with someone who lives in the same house as you. I see what really works is when she thinks that she got to me and I just keep smiling. She has actually told someone that she can't stand me being so happy all the time. Try it - it works! Don't let them see they are getting to you - EVER.
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